“(Teaching) children is vastly more than fixing what is wrong with them. It is about identifying and nurturing their strongest qualities.” (Seligman) Many parents believe that we should “fix” our children. Our natural response is to correct their mistakes and faults. Rather than being models and guides we become their judges and critics. But “fixing” …
The example you set may be a critical determinant of your children’s resilience and positivity. That’s because our children grow to be just like us. If we’re tall, they’ll likely be tall. If we have blue eyes, they will potentially inherit those. That’s how nature works. But nature only accounts for part of the story. …
The words we use– and the way we use those words – can have an enormous impact on our children’s happiness and confidence.
For confident kids, here are 5 things we should say as often as possible:
Focus on Effort, Not Outcome Do you get excited when your children get everything right? Or do you get excited when your children make mistakes and feel like what they’re doing is hard? Studies show that when we praise or reward kids for being brilliant, they get caught up in ‘proving’ how good they are. …