A couple of months ago, hubby & I did something pretty extraordinary… we went out alone (ie minus kids) to celebrate our 8 year wedding anniversary.
We felt like a couple of teenagers holdings hands (no pram to push!), partaking in uninterrupted conversation, sitting in a nice (not-so-child-friendly) local restaurant. As we sat there, enjoying the serenity, eating our meals, without once getting up to settle boisterous kids, or spoon feed a reluctant mouth, it felt strangely familiar. Like something we had done before… long, long ago.
And of course we had… in our life together BC (Before Children).
Then we did the maths and realised the last time we had been out together alone (ie minus children) was exactly one year ago to the day – on our 7 year anniversary.
That’s a long time between drinks.
So, in the afterglow of our anniversary dinner, we promised each other a date night once a month.
I’d barely spoken the thought out loud when my parents pounced on the opportunity to have 2 of their grandkids to themselves once a month. They’re very loving and proud Grandparents.
And so began our monthly child free nights and… it’s amazing! I love my little people more than can be expressed in words but my goodness, it’s nice to have a break once in a while.
We’ve been out just the two of us and we’ve been out with friends. It doesn’t really matter. It’s all about enjoying adult company and conversation and rediscovering the person you fell in love with. I can’t believe we didn’t think of it sooner!
It’s been a great opportunity to take stock of where we’re at and make sure we’re still on the same page (thankfully we are!). Seeing marriages around us become unravelled has really highlighted to me the importance of date night.
After all, we’re in this thing together, hubby and I. We’re a team and every now and then, it’s important to rise above the mounting pile of washing, squeaky toys and tantrums to remember why we decided to ‘do life together’ 8 years ago. After all, everything’s better when you do it together… especially date night.